Don't Make the Princess Mad!
My brother Glen has 9 grandchildren. He once told me that he and his 3 year old granddaughter (who was wearing her little princess costume) were hanging out one day in his office while he was trying to get some work done. She'd been trying desperately to get his attention but he was absorbed in all his paperwork. Suddenly, with a very serious face and her hands on her hips, she said loudly "Poppy! Don't make the princess mad!" As my brother shared this story I thought: "Wise words coming from a little person."
Yesterday my husband and I co-led a marriage workshop at our church. We were discussing renowned relationship expert John Gottman's 4 decades of research on marriage. One of his findings was that men have more difficulty accepting influence from women than some do from men. Accepting influence is about trying to accommodate each other's wants, desires, and needs....it's about trying to say "yes" more often than "no." When a husband accepts his wife's influence he's really showing her an attitude of honor and respect. And this often results in a greater likelihood of getting honor and respect back. What happens when a husband doesn't do this.....when he instead seems more annoyed or resistant to his wife? Four decades of research of thousands couples has the answer: The princess gets mad!
Recipe for love: Don't make the princess mad!
Recipe for life: Be a princess by treating your husband like a prince.
"...each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband." Ephesians 5:33 NIV