The best thing about a long lasting healthy marriage is that we get to learn some of life’s most important lessons...like it’s not all about me. God made marriage to work on our character. We come into the world completely self-centered...the hope is that with maturity we learn to be “other” centered. One of our goals is to grow from a selfish baby to a mature unselfish adult. God made marriage as a lifelong education to make us holy....as opposed to what our culture says...to be happy. The cool thing is that as we become more holy...happiness...joy follow. When we care for others, serve others, love others...it makes us happy. “Be devoted to one another in love. Honor one another above yourselves." -Romans 12:10.